Self-Sabotage Isn’t Laziness—It’s Subconscious Misdirection

By Alexandra Janelli


You’ve got the plan. The goal. The desire.
But somehow… you don’t follow through. You delay, avoid, or even ruin your own momentum. Then comes the guilt. You call it laziness.

But it’s not laziness—it’s misdirection.

Self-sabotage is usually your subconscious trying to protect you from something it believes is unsafe—even if that “danger” is just unfamiliar success.

What Self-Sabotage Really Is

Self-sabotage is a form of subconscious misalignment. It happens when your conscious goals don’t match your subconscious programming.

Example:
You want to grow your business (conscious goal).
But you believe deep down that success leads to burnout or rejection (subconscious belief).
Result? You “forget” to reply to that email, miss deadlines, or overthink until you freeze.

This isn’t failure—it’s a conflict between the part of you that wants to move forward and the part of you that’s afraid to.

Common Subconscious Blocks That Lead to Self-Sabotage:

  • Fear of failure: “If I don’t try, I can’t fail.”

  • Fear of success: “What if I lose it all?”

  • Fear of visibility: “If I’m seen, I might be judged.”

  • Low self-worth: “Who do I think I am to do this?”

  • Childhood conditioning: “I must stay small to stay safe.”

These beliefs can form early in life and run the show for decades—until you start to rewire them.

Signs You’re Subconsciously Sabotaging:

  • Procrastinating tasks that matter most

  • Creating drama right before big opportunities

  • Overcommitting so you "fail" by default

  • Underpricing or undervaluing your work

  • Starting strong, then quitting for no reason

The behavior is the symptom. The belief underneath is the real problem.

How to Rewire Self-Sabotage into Self-Support

  1. Identify the Pattern Without Shame
    Awareness is the first crack in the illusion. Track when and where sabotage shows up. Get curious instead of critical.

  2. Ask: What Is This Behavior Protecting Me From?
    Every act of sabotage is a form of protection. Your mind is trying to keep you emotionally safe, even if it limits you.

  3. Use Subconscious Tools to Shift the Pattern
    Guided visualization, repetition, and hypnosis help reprogram the core beliefs causing the misalignment. Instead of fighting your brain—you’re updating it.

burble: Helping You Get Out of Your Own Way

At burble, we designed our sessions to untangle these subconscious loops. Whether you’re stuck in procrastination, fear of failure, or self-doubt, burble uses evidence-backed methods to shift your mindset from sabotage to support.

It’s not about fixing you—it’s about aligning your conscious goals with your subconscious power.

Final Thought

You’re not lazy. You’re not weak.
You’re just running an old program that no longer fits the life you want to live.
And the moment you choose to change the script—you reclaim your story.


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Alexandra Janelli is one of Manhattan’s leading hypnotherapists focused on positive lifestyle changes. Her private practice, Theta Spring Hypnosis, is part of the prestigious Longevity Health, located in the Flatiron district of New York City, where owner Steven Margolin, Holistic Practitioner to stars such as Julia Roberts, Madonna, and the cast and crew of Glee, runs one of the first wellness center in Manhattan to offer holistic care with healing spa treatments.
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